Writing 10 blogs on emotional intelligence over the Christmas break, I was intrigued to see which of these would have current relevance to work in the new year.
One topic stands out for me: Continue reading
I found leading last week’s leadership and coaching workshop hugely motivating. It really felt like being part of creating a better world. Its success was, in part, due to our participants’ willingness to address the topic of emotional intelligence and strong emotions in leadership coaching. Overall, leadership development addresses four key areas of our lives:
Having full access to our feelings and emotions is vital to leadership development. Continue reading →
As leaders we need to create connections with people that go beyond the superficial: building on empathy we need to achieve trust. Trust is an indicator of prosperity and when we feel it, we are more confident that we can do business, get things done and achieve our mutual goals with others.
There’s a neuroscience to trust, that lies behind team spirit, personal and team effectiveness. Rather than write a lot this week, I’m going to invite you to spend 15 minutes watching this video from the recent TED conference in Edinburgh.
I’m not particularly sporty and I don’t follow rugby, but I have trained rugby players in coaching skills and seen them apply those tools to their playing and coaching on the field. I’m also very inspired by seeing the people of New Zealand rising above the huge challenge of having survived two major earthquakes in the last year and for the event to go ahead at all. Congratulations to everyone who put so much into making that happen.
One of our clients has been saving all year to spend her time travelling to New Zealand – just in time to see England get knocked out… Perhaps for all these reason I have been enthralled by the semi-finals of the Rugby World Cup.
For those of you who don’t follow rugby, it’s a very physical game, similar to, but with none of the protection used in the game of American Football. It inspires deep passions and fierce debate in the post-match analysis (that is, for UK fans at least, most often in the pub).
Eighteen minutes into the semi-final game between Wales and France, the Welsh Captain, Sam Warburton, was sent off for an illegal tackle on an opponent. Despite this catastrophic loss, Wales managed to hold out against France, only losing by 1 point.
So what happened? Perhaps by the time you read this, a replay will be available on YouTube – but here’s my synopsis:
The players reacted from the primeval part of their brain – sometimes known as the ‘lizard’ or ‘reptilian’ brain (technical term: basal ganglia). This means that emotional responses are very simple:
So the tackle that led to the sending off was a primeval response to a perceived threat. I’m not trying to imply malicious intent or that the player really wanted to ‘kill’ the other – simply that his brain was reacting at a very fundamental level.
In his post-match interview, the Welsh Captain then showed another part of his brain – the ‘mammalian brain’ (‘limbic system’) – where his response seemed genuinely remorseful. Warburton had a very positive previous disciplinary record, accepted his punishment well (a 3-match ban) and shifted to supporting his team to succeed in the ‘play-offs’ that he will miss.
It was good to note that Warburton was able to express his emotions: “disappointment” and still able to motivate his team to move forward and succeed without him.
And for me that was the greatest triumph of the Welsh team in defeat. They did everything in their power to limit their opponents’ greater strength and did well to keep the score so close (9-8 to France). This shows great resilience in the face of a catastrophe – something unexpected and probably unplanned. You could argue that ‘Plan A’ was to win the match with the full team; ‘Plan B’ was that the remaining players gave their all – which they did.
By contrast, the New Zealand team, who are noted for ‘choking’ – that is, failing to hold together as a team, losing their emotional resilience – managed to win decisively against their arch-rivals, Australia. We’re used to noticing individual body language: I would argue that there’s such a thing as ‘team body language’ – where the whole team are working as one great organism.
I find rugby very hard to watch – but I love watching the hakas: the pre-match intimidation ritual – they just make me smile. It’s totally about connecting with that primitive part of the brain: you don’t need to understand what’s being said here to understand the meaning –
So what’s this got to do with the rest of us sitting in our offices, trying to survive in today’s economy?
Identifying potential trigger points and having a plan to avoid falling into the pit of the reptilian brain’s reactions is vital. Typical triggers are
Creating a learning environment and inspiring people to keep moving on towards the vision is the role of the emotionally-intelligent leader. Noticing when and where these are most likely to occur, and having a ‘Plan B’ can mitigate many situations. The New Zealand Rugby Team are the favourites to win the final – but watch the team body language, my prediction is that whoever has the greater will win. If New Zealand maintain that – together with their team spirit, leadership and resilience they will win.
My earliest interest in leadership and management was around the topic of decision-making and success. Why do some people need lots of information – and even then don’t take decisions? Why do some leaders move forward on the basis of very little information?
I first began to understand intuition in action when working on a consulting project for a specialist hospital in south-west England. Head Injury patients were recovering from surgery and the nurses reported their observations of very subtle signs and signals from the patients. They believed they saw a correlation between these early signs and later recovery (or lack of it).
Malcolm Gladwell explored this further in his book ‘Blink’, where he described the impact of seeing repeating patterns – either in behaviour or inanimate objects, such as the sculptures at the Getty Museum. An expert in the field will know, in the blink of an eye, whether the work is genuine or a fake. Just as the nurse can tell by the blink of an eye, whether the patient will walk, talk and return to work.